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The Opposite Project strives to provide you with high quality content focused on Confidence, Composure, and Consistency that will help you teach your kids to lead themselves so others don’t have to.

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

A Refined Focus

This week you will notice I have changed the intro just a bit. I hope this new iteration will help serve you all better.

I have gone round and round personally about why I am writing The Opposite Project. At the end of the day, it always came back to the same thing. My two daughters.

Everything I write about is stuff I want them to know and be able to do. I hope by sharing it, I can help you and your kids too.

If this is not what you signed up for and you decide to unsubscribe, I will understand. I don’t want to see you go, but I know how important your inbox is.

If you are willing to stick around, I hope we can grow and improve together.

I would really appreciate it if you would take a moment to reply to this email and tell me what you want to learn more about or what you wish I would do differently. I welcome all feedback.

Again, thank you for joining me. I am looking forward to a great 2021. It has to be better than 2020, right???


Better Self-Talk Leads to Better Performance

Everyone has internal conversations with themselves. The ones who become great are the ones who can shut down the negative thoughts and use positive self-talk to get themselves back on track right away.

Positive self talk is important because it builds your confidence. Confidence, along with composure and consistency, are the keys to competitive excellence.

Here are a few things you can do to improve your self-talk.

  • Focus, think, and talk about what you Do want to happen.
  • Don’t focus, think, or talk about what you Don’t want to happen.
  • Stay in the moment. Worrying about the future let’s fear beat you. Dwelling on the past let’s anger and frustration beat you.
  • Never think or say “can’t” or “hate”. These words create a rigid mindset that locks you into negativity.
  • Concentrate on your strengths. Remind yourself you are prepared, tough, and ready to go.
  • There is nothing in the brain forcing you to be negative. Choose positive self-talk.

Composure Connection: Positive self-talk prepares you for peak performance. It helps correct bad habits, builds your confidence, and creates a positive attitude. Negative thinking does the opposite.


Why are Difficult Decisions Difficult?

Making is, by definition, difficult. Adults struggle with making difficult decisions.

Imagine how kids must feel.

The hard part of making decisions isn’t figuring out the right answer. The right choice is usually pretty clear.

Being willing to make the tough, often unpopular, choice then follow through is the hard part.

Making difficult decisions is especially hard for kids because there is usually some personal risk (making a friend mad, disappointing a parent) attached.

When faced with a tough decision, kids don’t need adults to tell them what to do. Instead, they need moral support to help them get through the process and to avoid the temptation of taking the easy way out.

Kids want to and need to make the decision on their own. They just need a cheerleader to build their confidence and encourage them to follow through.

Confidence Connection: Knowing the right decision is not the hard part. Making it is. Kids need support and encouragement when faced with a difficult decision more than they need someone to tell them what to do.

Quote of the Week:

“A guy who gives you less than what he has to give is, one, telling you what he thinks of you, and two, telling you what he thinks of himself.” – Pete Carill

Have a Great Week!

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